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Post by Tom on Mar 10, 2010 15:14:18 GMT -7
It's always seemed a shame that there are no posts in this folder, now there's one.
And what I'd really like to know is where are all these women who are turned on by amputees? As far as I'm concerned, they're conspicuous by their absence.
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Post by allenuk on Mar 11, 2010 1:38:00 GMT -7
Sorry about that Tom - our lack of Google plus our Facebook filtering system means that we turn away the devotees! There are (oddly) websites devoted to devotees, apparently popular with such folks, where I suppose a genuine amputee would go down a bomb.
Stick a photo of yourself on our website - you never know, you might get the women here queuing up in their droves.
Allen, bka, London.
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Post by snowyh on Mar 13, 2010 4:13:52 GMT -7
And what I'd really like to know is where are all these women who are turned on by amputees? Here they are, Tom: groups.yahoo.com/group/Women_Admirers_and_Amputee_Men/It's a good place to go if you'd like to learn more about the attraction, or just to meet some nice folks. The owner of the above Yahoo group, which is open to all, also maintains a separate group that is only open to female devotees and male amputees--but you'll have to ask her how to join that one, because I don't meet the criteria. Helen |
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Post by Tom on Mar 21, 2010 14:23:44 GMT -7
Actually, my wife wouldn't be amused at my pursuing any of this. The empty folder just seemed to cry out for a post. ;-)
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Post by ann58 on Mar 24, 2010 7:36:31 GMT -7
I would imagine you are correct, Tom.  |
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Post by ann- on Mar 25, 2010 6:29:55 GMT -7
LOL
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Post by allenuk on Mar 26, 2010 5:32:11 GMT -7
I had a glance at the Yahoo devotees site, but didn't register (that would have been taking research a step too far...)
I hadn't really thought about the subject before, but I suppose one of the reasons non-disabled women fancy amputee men is that we don't represent the usual level of physical threat (alright, perceived threat then). Can't see any other attraction!
Allen, bka, London.
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Post by Tom on Mar 28, 2010 15:59:47 GMT -7
Alan, there are a lot of quirks in our sexuality, and this is just one of the less harmful ones, I'd guess.
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Post by headoncollider on Feb 26, 2011 2:02:13 GMT -7
Oh yes, the "admirer / devotee" groups are interesting, to say the least. There are as many and varied natured individuals there as you would find in any other culture. From the disgustingly depraved to the absolute gems of respect and honest reguard. For both those reasons, I am a big participant in several of those groups. 1. To know who the twisted and depraved ones are, so I can avoid them at all cost. and 2. To chat with the ones who some moral respect for themselves and me as individuals of mutual concerns. You might be suprised at how many morally appreciable admirers are at angst with their own desires, which is understandable. These people also worry that the depraved devotees cause a wrongfull impression for the rest of them, who are trying to be honestly accepted for who they are, while also contradicted by their own ideals of beauty. I would suggest more amputees check these groups out for the same reasons I have. To be aware of the nutty ones and acknowledge the normal ones. The truth is, this sub set of society is always going to be there and in the real world with us, so its a good idea to know your environment fully. My only word of warning (because of the nutty ones) is to NOT post any pics, other than head shots. You will very quickly be able to divide the nice ones from the nutty ones, as the nice ones want to know you first, not your disabilities. As like any other relationship, friendship or otherwise, a sensible person wants to know the person first. Very little seems to have been said of the subject on this forum, so I thought I should say something. I hope it helps both the new amputees and respectable admirers find a mutual ground to communicate. Just DONT bring them here. As the owner of this group stated to me upon membership confirmation, "THIS GROUP IS FOR AMPS ONLY". I fully intend to respect that and hope all others will do so too  |
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Post by barclay on Feb 26, 2011 7:38:07 GMT -7
I don't know - I can't imagine trusting someone who would find me unattractive with two legs. I don't think much of people who are reject me because of the stump either - and I am not sure I see the difference.
I#d be interested to hear your thought on that Headon.
I do get people needing time to adjust - in the locker room getting changed for tennis when I take of the leg to put on extra socks, I try to let people know I'm fine with their curiosity. It's not something you get to see often.
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Post by headoncollider on Feb 27, 2011 6:27:08 GMT -7
I don't know - I can't imagine trusting someone who would find me unattractive with two legs. I don't think much of people who are reject me because of the stump either - and I am not sure I see the difference. I#d be interested to hear your thought on that Headon. I do get people needing time to adjust - in the locker room getting changed for tennis when I take of the leg to put on extra socks, I try to let people know I'm fine with their curiosity. It's not something you get to see often. Hey Barclay, yes i agree, its a hard one to work out, which it would seem is the problem for all concerned. The discussions ive had with admirers almost always explain it like most other preferences that everyone has, but with the extra relevant points of issue. The typical analogy offered to me was that its like telling a straight guy the world has decided we all now have to be gay. Its not something you can decide to be, you either are or you are not, and anyone who doesnt fit the assumed global mould must have something wrong with them. Thats the one that made the most sense to me because I just cant imagine trying to reinvent my own mind to fit in to everyone elses ideals. And I guess thats why so many gay folk feel they have to come out and actually live an open gay life. As for "not trusting someone who would find me unattractive with two legs. I don't think much of people who are reject me because of the stump either - and I am not sure I see the difference". Well, im sure most women dont like guys sizing their chest, weist and butt measurements agains their "ideal beauty" before they even get to know them, but it does happen. And if less than 2% of the worlds population were what you would call "sexy", and had what you would call a fantastic personallity, the odds of finding the right one would be pretty slim. I doubt many of the admirers will ever find a truely happy relationship until we can accept they do exist and want a normal, happy life with someone they can openly and truely appreciate on EVERY level. I know I sound like an advocate for admirers, but thats about the size of it. I am. The world has bucket loads of haters of anyone and everyone, and im sick of it. So I "try" to understand and accept people as they are. I dont have to love them or loath them, I just accept any truth I am offered and deal with it as best I can. Any truth is better than ignoring reality and hoping it will go away. |
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Post by ann58 on Mar 7, 2011 7:06:26 GMT -7
I just can't undestand why anyone would want to be an amputee {without a real reason}. I can't help it, but I feel thats just sick. I would give alot to have my leg back...alot!!
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Post by headoncollider on Mar 12, 2011 9:03:07 GMT -7
I just can't undestand why anyone would want to be an amputee {without a real reason}. I can't help it, but I feel thats just sick. I would give alot to have my leg back...alot!! Yep, thats the hard part to understand. But hey, if they want to "donate" a limb, who here would want to stop them?,,, LOL. |
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Post by barclay on Mar 12, 2011 22:47:41 GMT -7
Hi Headon - I just wanted to thank you for your answer. I've avoided the topic just because I think we see things very differently and there isn't much to discuss, but I do appreciate the time you took !!
Best,
Cynthia
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Post by headoncollider on Apr 16, 2011 8:47:27 GMT -7
LOL, thanks for your input Barclay. Your last comment modestly speaks more than the sum of its parts.
Kind respect for others opinions, avoiding potential argument while maintaining your own opinion and right to it.
My last post was in relation to a kid who was continually bullied off a school bus. To which my reply was "products of their environment". I was very unhappy to have read it.
Your reply to this unrelated subject gave me a little more hope in mutual human respect.
Im tired of seeing people hate each other like its a sport.
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