My dad May have his both legs amputated

[cecil]

Hey everyone,
This is my first post so, nice to meet you all and i hope everyone is doing alright.

My dad has been diabetic (type2) since the longest time as i can remember. So as the years pass by, age and weight catch up. Especially since he doesn’t care for his health in the least bit. He is quite overweight and both of his legs are always swollen, sometime leaks water and.. really damaged overall. It kinda looks like skin have been burned and in the process of healing... i can cut it with my fingernail without any effort. I’m sorry if that was graphic.

Anyway, i am his son and caretaker. And i think his legs are reaching their limit.
I kept asking myself, if one day both his legs are gone, how am i going to aid him. There is no way i can lift him.. even two people cannot. How am i going to take him to the toilet, get him in the car for appointments.. i cant really grasp how am i going to help him

If you have any question, opinion, advice, tips, anything you would like to share or maybe you just want to say hi then please feel free to drop by. You are appreciated and i will cherish every word you guys will say.
(Sorry for the grammar)

[snowyh]

Hi, Cecil, and welcome to the forum. Sadly, it sounds like your dad is on the fast track to serious complications from neglecting his health. Are you in the US? I don't think Medicare covers long-term care (though I don't know for sure). If your dad has a Long Term Care insurance policy, bilateral amputation resulting in inability to care for oneself should definitely qualify him to make a claim. Lacking that, there may be a nonprofit organization in your area that helps people in your situation. Where do y'all live?

Helen

[cecil]

Thank you for your commeng, Helen.
He is indeed on the fast track. He eats junk food, drink sugary drinks all the time, barely drinks a small bottle of water, doesnt walk (only to bathroom and to the car.. literally). And most of all.. he eats chocolate like a madman, More than a normal person would eat. His sugar level are always unreadable.. it shows 30 but i’m sure its way over that. I have to stop here because its just depressing. Believe me when i say that we have tried everything with him. He yells and makes everyones life a hell untill he gets what he want. Didnt i say i’ll stop here? UUUURGH he is just going to kill himself... *sigh*
I’m from Kuwait (middle-east), by the way.

If i cant even lift him how am i going to take care of him. It appears admitting him to one of those long-term care is my only option. The problem is he will think that i just want to get rid of him. But if that is the best way he can be taken care off, i will, even though he may disown me (joke.. but possible). But still, i really wish if i had another option.

[snowyh]

It would be unfortunate if your father tries to make you feel guilty for admitting him to a facility that can properly care for him*--honestly, I don't know how you're able to manage it now! He would have to know that you can no longer care for him, and equally, that his need for professional care is a direct result of his own actions. To me, it seems like anyone who who treats their body like that is trying to kill themselves.

*Of course, there are always other options if one has enough $$.