Post by dawnbbka on Jan 14, 2013 14:55:23 GMT -7
Hello everyone,
I was not a traumatic limb amputation. Both of my lower legs were progressively amputated. First it was the two toes on both feet. It advanced to my right ankle, to a low BKA, then a high BKA. I didn't think too much about it and went on with life as usual. But there was always this void I felt. I couldn't put my finger on it but noticed my attitude/personality had changed. I was irritable, snapping at everyone, crying at the drop of a hat. no patience, didn't want anyone to help me. etc. After going through this process all over again with the second leg, I became severely depressed. had suicidal thoughts and plans but didn't have the guts to carry them out. I knew I needed help. The psychiatrist I had went through told me she felt I never allowed myself to grieve. I had went on with life like nothing had changed. I was still that adrenaline junkie, faced paced, give me more action type of person. After seeing the therapist for a few months and feeling a little bit better, she asked me to write a good bye letter. I said "Good bye letter"? She said yes, a good bye letter to both of the legs and the life I lived with them. I went home, thinking what the heck am I supposed to write? The first sentence was Dear legs, thank you for being with me for 35 years. and the rest kept coming...Thank you for allowing me to climb trees when I was a kid, swim the fastest on my high school swim team and on and on and on. The ending was kind of like...Sorry we can no longer go on together. It is for the best that I let you go. I cried and cried and cried so much and so hard.
When I returned to the therapist, I read the letter and cried some more. That letter changed my life and allowed me to open a new chapter without legs.
I was not a traumatic limb amputation. Both of my lower legs were progressively amputated. First it was the two toes on both feet. It advanced to my right ankle, to a low BKA, then a high BKA. I didn't think too much about it and went on with life as usual. But there was always this void I felt. I couldn't put my finger on it but noticed my attitude/personality had changed. I was irritable, snapping at everyone, crying at the drop of a hat. no patience, didn't want anyone to help me. etc. After going through this process all over again with the second leg, I became severely depressed. had suicidal thoughts and plans but didn't have the guts to carry them out. I knew I needed help. The psychiatrist I had went through told me she felt I never allowed myself to grieve. I had went on with life like nothing had changed. I was still that adrenaline junkie, faced paced, give me more action type of person. After seeing the therapist for a few months and feeling a little bit better, she asked me to write a good bye letter. I said "Good bye letter"? She said yes, a good bye letter to both of the legs and the life I lived with them. I went home, thinking what the heck am I supposed to write? The first sentence was Dear legs, thank you for being with me for 35 years. and the rest kept coming...Thank you for allowing me to climb trees when I was a kid, swim the fastest on my high school swim team and on and on and on. The ending was kind of like...Sorry we can no longer go on together. It is for the best that I let you go. I cried and cried and cried so much and so hard.
When I returned to the therapist, I read the letter and cried some more. That letter changed my life and allowed me to open a new chapter without legs.